As part of our Urbo ‘How we Roll’ campaign, BBC Radio 1 DJ and working mum Edith Bowman gives us a little snippet of what her life is like as a mum to two children and radio DJ!
I’ve always been pretty career driven, even before I had one. Determination is something I’ve always had in abundance. When I had my first child I was back at work 2 weeks after having a C-Section, presenting the television coverage of Glastonbury for the BBC. Looking back, my partner and I still say we wouldn’t do it any differently. I still remember halfway through a broadcast, feeling the tingle in the boobs and knowing that if I didn’t express within half an hour, Glastonbury would live up to its day job as a milk farm, live on TV!
Throwing to a Chemical Brothers performance on the Other Stage, I asked our producer Sally how long were we showing the Chemical brother set? “20 Minutes,” she replied. “I’ll be back in 15,” was my response. I trudged down the steep staircase from our treetop studio to a portacabin where I had my pump ready and waiting, right next to my minibar I’d bought specially for my milk. And that’s how we rolled.
I think I felt like I had a point to prove, to who, I am not entirely sure. I can be a young mum and work and still be relevant and do what I do. It’s what makes me who I am after all. Looking back now as I feed my newborn the only person I had anything to prove the point to was myself, and even I wasn’t paying much attention – I didn’t have the time!
Even though I did go back to doing my radio shows on BBC6 Music and Radio1 four weeks after having my second, I do feel differently about work now. I don’t have a point to prove and if I didn’t have to I probably wouldn’t work as much as I do. Who wouldn’t?
It’s quite strange how different you feel second time around with so many things. The sleep deprivation is more bearable, there is less worry and paranoia around most things. But one thing that I’m sure all mums and dads out there who work can relate to, is that however much you or other people tell you, you can’t totally remove the guilt of leaving them with someone else. We have the best nanny, we really couldn’t ask for more she is like a member of the family and I trust her with the lives of our children unquestionably. However, there is still that niggle that you are doing something wrong and you shouldn’t be working but spending every waking minute with your children. Why is that? I couldn’t love or be more attentive to my boys. I think they benefit from me working and doing what I love. In the same way I love hearing about what Rudy has been up to at nursery, he is fascinated by my work and the music and we love nothing more than watching films together and talking about it all. I hope I can continue to involve the kids in my work as much as possible. Since Rudy was 2 weeks old we introduced him to our world with his first trip to Glastonbury and he seems to love it and who could question that!
Edith presents BBC Radio 1′s Review Show Tuesday’s 9pm, BBC Radio 6 Music’s Saturday morning show 10am-1pm and, from 26th May, Bump Club on BBC Radio 5 Live Sundays 11am.