MEET THE FLIP XT FAMILY: SIOBHAN MILLER (THE DOUBLE MAMA)
We’ve been working with some incredible parenting bloggers recently, including the brilliant Siobhan Miller. Siobhan runs the excellent The Double Mama blog – it’s all about her experiences as a mum of two, as well as featuring great insights into parenting! She’s honest, open and great company so we thought she be great for a bit of a chinwag!
Hi Siobhan! Thanks for taking the time to speak to us, tell us a little bit about you and your family.
I’m a 30 year old (not got used to that yet!!) soon-to-be Mum of 3 boys (nor that!!). My eldest son is called Oisin and he’s almost 9, then there’s Arlo who is 1 and baby no3 is due on April Fools’ Day (which means he definitely won’t come that day!!). I live with my partner James in a 2 and a half bed (yes, really) terrace house in London.
Can you remember how you felt when you found out you were expecting?
There’s always a mixture of huge excitement and anxiety, which is only natural seeing as it’s a massively life-changing event. I think the following fears are pretty universal: Will I cope? Will I have a breakdown? Can we afford it? Will it change my relationship with my partner/other children? What happens if I don’t love him or her? Will the baby be healthy? How bad will the morning sickness be? How fat will I get?
I actually wrote a blog post listing the thoughts that ran through my head in early pregnancy.
So how would you describe your children’s personalities?
Oisin is a bundle of energy and does not stop moving or making noises from the moment he wakes to the moment he goes to bed. It’s exhausting but he can also be incredibly thoughtful and sweet and writes little love notes, makes me cups of tea each morning and is the most loving and doting big brother.
Arlo is quite different and a lot more cautious as a baby than Oisin ever was. He takes his time with stuff whereas Oisin would just lunge himself from one place to another from a very early age. I’m hoping this means he might be a calmer child?! He absolutely adores his older brother though and is so happy and excited when Oisin comes home from school. He has no interest in age-appropriate toys but just wants to play with Lego and Marvel Heroes. He just wants to be a big boy.
How do you spend time as a family?
We like to be busy and are always away at the weekends on various adventures or catching up with people. We love camping and recently got a VW camper so in the summer we escape to the coast whenever we have a free weekend! At home we are big fans of family film night. We get Arlo to bed early and Oisin makes us tickets and introduces the film before dimming lights in typical dramatic fashion. We get a take-out and snuggle up under a duvet to watch the film – it’s the best kind of cinema.
Sounds amazing! It must be hard finding five minutes to yourself, if you do manage it how do you spend that special time?
When I get 5 minutes to myself, I normally waste it/spend it scrolling Instagram. I feel like I really ought to do something better like read a book but I can’t help myself! Saying that, I have met a lot of really amazing and inspiring mamas on Instagram and there’s a real sense of community there. Everyone is super-friendly and supportive of each other. It’s a really positive thing to be part of.
If you could pass on only one life lesson to your little ones, what would it be?
Oh GAWD. I’m still trying to figure it all out myself?! I guess I want them to always be kind and to be happy. So to work on achieving that and hope everything else falls into place?! Mostly I hope my kids grow up and still want to be my friend.
You never really appreciate the saying ‘mum knows best’ until your one yourself. What’s the best piece of advice your mum’s ever given you?
At the end of the day you have to do what is best for you and your family and it doesn’t matter what anyone else thinks. Do what makes you happy and what works best because a happier Mum is most definitely better than a miserable one.
I think it’s really important to take time out to relax and recharge. Equally it’s important to make time for your relationship with your other half. Going on a regular date night is a good way of doing this!
Finally, motherhood can be a competitive game and if there’s one thing I’ve learnt it’s that there are no winners. Nobody gets an easy ride when it comes to raising a child.
That’s really great advice and so easy to forget! Finally, where’s your favourite place for the following:
To eat: Wagamamas- we are big fans!
For a day out: Bushy Park and Richmond Park are two royal parks that are really nearby and they are amazing. There’s loads of open space, play areas and woodland. You can see swans and deer, kick a ball around, ride your bikes or build dens. Plus there’s a cafe for afterwards. Kew Gardens is also nearby and great for a day out with the family.
Rainy day indoors: Probably one of the museums in town like The Science Museum or The Natural History Museum. Both are free and you can take a picnic and easily lose a day in there. I hate massive soft play centres and avoid them at all costs!
Thanks Siobhan, it’s be fun! Follow us on Instagram for more fun from The Double Mama!